• MAY 6, 2020
  • BY Amanda Barton

OMG Im Pregnant! Now What?

OMG Im Pregnant! Now What?


So you’re pregnant, and it wasn’t planned. So many women have been in your position. You are not the first to experience the feelings of concern and anxiety. An unplanned pregnancy was not what you were expecting.

So now what? You have several options. You can parent the baby or you could have an abortion. You could place the baby in foster care, respite care or have a relative parent the child.  You can also place your baby for adoption. This option is sometimes mistakenly called “giving up your baby for adoption”, but in no way, is it giving up. You are making an adoption plan for you and your baby. Whatever choice you make, obviously the choice is a major one that will impact your life. Take some time, and consider your options.

When considering parenting your child, think about, What is in my child’s best interest? Parenting is a choice you make for life. It’s a financial commitment, an emotional one and a decision you make for yours and theirs entire life. If you believe you have the resources, support and desire to parent your baby, parenting can be the right choice for you. Think about if you can provide the child with food, shelter, medical care and education.  You should be able to provide these necessities. Take a hard look at your current situation and decide if bringing a child into your life is beneficial to the child and to you.

If you decide you can’t possibly parent a child right now, there are other options including abortion. Some women will not consider abortion as an option and look for abortion alternatives, however if you choose abortion, that is your choice to make. You will have emotions that arise when terminating a pregnancy, which won’t be easy, but in reality, any of the choices are not easy ones. At the end of the day, having an abortion is an option for many women.

Placing your baby into a temporary situation including foster, respite care or having a relative temporarily parent the baby is something else to consider. These are temporary solutions but could buy you some time to figure out your own situation and decide if you can parent the child.

If you are looking for a more permanent solution, our favorite option is placing your child for adoption with a loving family. Adoption offers the gift of a family to people who typically wouldn’t be able to have a family without your selfless act of adoption. There are many emotional aspects to carrying a baby until birth and then delivering and placing the baby with the adoptive family. No doubt, this will be really hard. You have to feel fully comfortable with the fact that you made the ultimate sacrifice by giving this gift to someone else. You also know you made a selfless decision for your child so that they can have the opportunity for a great life, a loving and secure home. You will be sad at times, but knowing you put your child’s needs above your own will help you through it. Knowing you get to choose the family to raise your child also helps. It is completely your choice, and oftentimes, families and birth parents have open adoptions, so you can see how your baby is growing and maybe even have a relationship with the child at some point.

If you would like to learn more, we work with women from all over the United States, not just here in Pennsylvania, where we are located. A Baby Step Adoption has helped thousands of women with adoption plans over the past thirty years. We have many loving families who have been carefully screened, and cannot wait to welcome a baby.

We are here for you 24/7 to talk to you about your options and explain the adoption. Our caring caseworkers are with you from Day 1 to help you through this difficult time. We make no judgements. If you want to talk about your options, we are open to discussion and would never push you into something you aren’t totally comfortable with. We are good listeners and will be there for you.

 We can help with your living and medical expenses and make sure you are in a good place after the pregnancy as well.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 888-505-2367, text: 610-613-1911 or email: info@ababystepadoption.com. We are always here to answer your calls, texts and emails, so contact us today. Wherever you are located from Pennsylvania to New Jersey, Arkansas or North or South Carolina, we can help women from anywhere.  We can help you make the decision that works best for you and your baby.